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How well do you know your partner? Is your partner “THE ONE”? If you want to find out, check the 8 signs on how to know if your partner is “THE ONE”.

At present, couples marry at a very young age then get divorced or annulled after some time. It’s quite frustrating that people just treat marriage as if it is a simple thing that once you get bored or exhausted you just quit. So before you actually think of settling down with your partner, make sure you read this article!

Here are the 8 signs to know if your partner is the one:

LOVE

One of the most misinterpreted word in the world. When we talk of love, it is not just about feelings. Yes you’ve heard that before. “Love is a choice”. Yes you’ve heard that one as well but you know what? Love is not a choice.

Love is a must!

Why? It’s because people can’t live without love. Some might say “not really” but in reality people have feelings whether you like it or not. Loving someone is not at all rainbows and butterflies. You truly love someone if you can give up or sacrifice that one most special thing for you or a part of yourself just for that person. It’s like how God gave His only Son for us whom He loves.

TRUST

Trusting your partner may be a little hard for some especially when they have trust issues. But it is not only a must that you do because how can you love someone whom you do not trust. Yes there will be times that you’ll doubt one another but that is alright. It doesn’t mean that you don’t trust your partner. You’re just scared of being left behind or cheated. Another thing is

“It’s not only that you trust your partner, it is necessary that you trust yourself too”.

You can say that you truly trust your partner and yourself if at the back of your mind, you stop asking yourself what ifs and you stop defending yourself or your partner in certain things. In trusting, you don’t need an explanation, you just know.

SENSITIVITY

It is when you can talk about everything without hurting each other or without the other one getting mad or lonely. Yes it may be inevitable but if you have sensitivity within your relationship, talking around certain topics, like the past or persons your partner dislike, would be very easy and not at all too emotional but of course sensitivity also requires that you choose and use your words wisely.

”Think before you speak, Rethink before you act”.

COMPATIBILITY

Another misinterpreted word is compatibility. When you say compatibility, it is not about liking the same movies, having the same things, listening to the same genre of music or doing the same hobbies.

“Compatibility is not having the same likes but having the same wants”.

They say that opposites attract therefore if you are compatible and you are totally different from one another, you must always meet halfway to meet your wants. Compromising is the key and if that worked then you are totally compatible.

COMFORTABILITY

You can say that you’re comfortable with one another when you can talk about your insecurities and greatest fears with each other. It is when you can just be yourself completely knowing that your partner can handle you and will not leave you. Being comfortable is showing your best and worst side to your partner and vice versa.

This also comes with acceptance.

You must accept the fact that your other half is like that and you just love every side of him/her no matter their flaws.

SECURITY

Along with being comfortable with one another is being secured with one another.

Security means two things: being protected and having confidence with each other.

Secured as being protected means you know that in a crisis you will be protected and that you will also protect the other. Protection can be physical, emotional or social. For example, you are harassed in social media. You know your partner will come and defend you. While in confidence, you are secured when you trust your partner and yourself as I had said earlier. It can be that you are confident in what the other one is doing or you are confident to say that you are in a relationship with your partner.

MATURITY

Maturity is NOT when you stopped acting childish because in the first place you will not know it’s childish if you are not mature. Maturity is not only when you stop fighting over silly or small things.

Maturity is facing the problems face-to-face and making the right decisions regarding the matter.

There is always a way. Couples that break up after having problems must be mature enough to admit that they just don’t want to try the “way” and that instead they walked away. If a couple decided to go in the “way”, they must be mature enough to walk ahead and lose some of themselves in order to gain a lot more. You cannot gain if you don’t have enough space to store it.

VISION – MISSION-GOAL

It is important that you both have the same vision for the future and that both of you are working very hard to make that vision a reality. Creating a vision is easy. Dreaming is in man’s nature but if you don’t put yourself to act you will never get that dream.

Being a visionary, mission-oriented and goal-driven couple is hard work

but if you worked very hard you’ll reach that goal. If you are a couple who don’t have any vision for the future then start making one and if you think it’s hard work, yes it is!

These are the 8 signs if your partner is “THE ONE”. If s/he is all these then you’re definitely on the right track. If you are the one who lack some of these signs, make sure you practice these steps within your relationship. Also, make sure to pass this on your partner and let him/her read for themselves. This could just save you!

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Sunday, June 11, 2017